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Monday, July 14, 2014

worst nightmare

at first, i was ecstatic about getting 33 eggs but then I started to worry about k. 
33 is a lot of eggs. 

i’d been checking in with k all day to see how she was feeling. side note: let me just tell you that k is the most positive person ever. i don’t think i can remember a time throughout this process that i’ve ever heard her complain or be negative about anything.

about 4 hours after her retrieval, she felt bloated and had cramps. but she said it was worth it and made it seem like it wasn’t a big deal. by 7:45pm, she was getting concerned and thought she might need to go to the ER. she finally urinated for the first time since her egg retrieval and passed a lot of blood clots. when walking back to bed, she vomited everywhere. i was horribly worried and felt awful that she was so sick because of something she did for us. i started googling OHSS and her symptoms were listed under the severe category.

i encouraged her to call the nurse (which she had already done) and go to the ER. but she was still hoping to avoid going into the hospital. with her typical positive outlook, she said, “it’s just a small bump in the road and that she’d be fine”.

by 9pm, she was on her way to the hospital. of course, i was a wreck because i was worried sick about her health and wellbeing. she’s the kindest person on the planet and it broke my heart that she was in pain. of course, in true k fashion…she was apologizing to me for having to go into the ER and worrying me.

i don’t think i slept more than a few hours because i was constantly checking my phone for updates on k. Truth be told, i was also feeling angry at the doctor at SDFC for making k over stim. i was cursing my 33 eggs. who needs that many eggs anyways? i felt like all of this was my fault. hubby kept telling me, “it is not your fault. if it is anyone’s fault, it is the doctor’s for giving her too high a dose of meds.”

k’s husband had to drop her off at the hospital because he had their four kids with him. it was important to me that i kept in close email contact with k so she didn’t feel alone in the ER. the doctor did a vaginal check and saw a lot of blood clots. she had blood work, an ultrasound of her bladder and an x-ray performed. at 1:40AM, the ultrasound showed that she was hyper stimulating. her last email to me was at 3AM letting me know that she had been discharged from the ER…paperwork stating “hemorrhage from hyperstimulation”. she said she was feeling much better than at 5pm. again, k was apologizing that i didn’t get any sleep and that she had me worried. who is this girl? she is so incredibly sweet. it’s unreal.

at 11:51AM, k was resting at home and on a special diet to help with the bloating from OHSS. we had flowers delivered to her house with a get well card. i breathed a sigh of relief that she was feeling so much better and on the mend. and k…she was busy scolding me about getting some rest so that i will be ready for my up and coming transfer.

this felt like THE longest, most emotional 24 hours of my life. now that i know k is out of the woods, i can again focus on the wonderful news. the fact that 33 eggs were retrieved, 29 were mature and 23 fertilized. They were fertilized with ICSI and we will continue to pray that they all grow and divide properly. And also continue to pray for a full, speedy recovery for k. 


50 comments:

Stephanie F said...

Oh gosh how stressful!!!

I think it's beautiful how you all care so much about each other.
So glad she's ok.

Dream Chase said...

I am beyond happy and excited for you! Wow, 23 fertilized, beautiful eggs all for you. No doubt you are finally gonna be a mama!

As for K, so glad she's okay. She really is a sweetheart and so are you. Looking forward to your posts to come! *hugs* love and prayers!

futureMom said...

OMG I hope K is ok! What did they actually do at the hospital to resolve the OHSS? Did they drain the follicles or anything? I'm glad that she is better now. congrats on your 23 embryos! Amazing!

Anonymous said...

K, I wish you a speedy recovery, you're amazing! Thanks for the update!

Laura Rahel said...

Prayers and happy thoughts for K! What a sweet, sweet girl!

Lisa {Amateur Nester} said...

Oh my, you must've been terrified. And your poor donor. God bless her. So glad she's feeling better. 23 fertilized is fantastic!!

Ashley said...

Soo scary, but glad she is okay after all!! 23! That's a great number!! My fingers are crossed for you guys!!

Lisa said...

I'll be thinking about k. Ohss is truly awful and I only dealt with moderate level.

infertilitywhyme said...

She sounds like a wonderful person, as do you for caring so much! Those numbers are incredible, congratulations!

Our Journey Through This Lovely Life said...

Prayers for K how scary!!

Brianna said...

Oh my goodness. That is so much to go through in 24 hours, for both of you. And what a SAINT she is for apologizing to you. I hope she begins to feel better quickly and that those embryos grow strong!

Jessica said...

So glad that K is ok. Goodness, that sounds scary! Praying that everything goes smoothly and easily for you both from here on out!

Liz said...

That's so scary but I'm glad she's okay. Ohss is serious so I'm glad she went to the ER. On a positive note, what a great number of eggs!

JoJo said...

Oh no! OHSS isn't fun. I feel for her as I too had it pretty severe minus the bleeding. Hope she gets better soon. As for u missy get some rest. It's essential for ur up and coming transfer.

Ashley @ Life on the Parsons Farm said...

I've read about ohhs and understand that it can be painful so my prayers are with k. But OMG I am so fricken excited for you to have 23 eggs! That is just the best news and I am so happy for you girl!!!

Sarah said...

Oh my goodness!! So glad she is ok!!!

Cristy said...

Oh no!! I'm so glad K is feeling better. OHSS is no joke and the RE should be ashamed of himself for being so careless. This is completely his fault and he deserves to be reprimanded.

Rest up and take good care if yourself and K. I'm so happy to hear about the fertilization report and I hope this is the last of the bad news for a very long time.

Kacy said...

Wow, K is amazing! I am so excited for you guys! It's happening so fast and you'll be pregnant in no time!!!! :-)

conceptionallychallenged said...

A nightmare indeed. I'm so glad K is doing better. But your husband is right, it's not your fault. Go easy on yourself, too.

Weylin said...

Hugs to you both. What a blessing you both are to each other. Hang in there, girls, it's almost the home stretch! You can smell the grass of that home run! (I feel like a screamer at the end of those sports movies, you know, like COME OOOOOOONNNNNNNNN!!!!!! RUUUUUNNNNNN!!!!!) What K said is right Jessah, the best thing you can do is rest and rest and rest, because her part is done and you're up now. 23 fertilized! Grow grow grow, babies!

jAllen said...

Oh Jessah, what a rough ordeal for you both! don't blame yourself! As k described, it's a bump in the road, but yay for your 23 fertilised eggs!

ADSchill said...

Thank goodness K is okay! My doctors were really conservative with me regarding OHSS. Almost TOO conservative in that we didn't get many eggs...but my ovaries were safe. I am so hopeful for you my dear.

I can haz babyz? said...

Keeping K in my thoughts and that she has a speedy recovery!!! I'm also keeping you, your DH and your beautiful embies in my thoughts. Grow little ones grow!!!
--Mindy (MM29)

Charity said...

Oh my Jessah! I am so sorry to hear that about K. I pray that The Lord heals her and she has no further complication. I am grateful for the eggs that are mature and doing well.

Brittnie said...

I hyper stimulated after my retrieval (20 eggs) and they had to put off doing the transfer for a month to let my body calm down. It was awful at the time although I did not have the bleeding and vomiting like K - just major bloating and cramping and pain. I could hardly walk, so I can only imagine what K was feeling. Such an emotional and physical roller coaster!!

I will keep praying for K and you in this process!!

Infertile625 said...

Yikes!!! How scary that is. I'm glad K is ok and home. She sounds wonderful.

23!!!! Jessah - woah!!! That's amazing.

Prayers for healthy division and for continued recovery for K. Xoxo

Endo_Life said...

First of all yay for 23 fertilised eggs that is amazing. Secondly I am so sorry k had to go through that but glad to hear she is already feeling better and hope she rests up for a few days. Now make aure you get plenty of rest before your transfer. Thinking of you all xxx

Amanda said...

Oh wow! 33 is a LOT of eggs. I'm REALLY surprised they didn't have her monitored following that many. I remember the crazed look doctors got when they heard my AMH and AFC... her AFC was waaayyyy higher than mine. I feel like this should have been expected. Even with only 13 eggs retrieved and the lupron trigger my doctor called every few hours following retrieval to make sure I wasn't hyper-stimulated. Did anybody check on her? Tell her to drink her weight in gatorade? Gah, that's frustrating! I hope she's feeling better, today!

Wonderful fertilization report! Can't wait for the transfer!!!

Stephanie said...

What a whirlwind! 33 eggs is fantastic, but I'm so sorry to hear that she overstimulated. It sounds like they got it under control pretty quickly though which is a blessing.

Anonymous said...

Dear Jessah
I have been reading your blog for a few months. I am so excited for this cycle and hoping this is the one that brings you your baby!
I am so sorry for k. I was wondering if they started her on anything to decrease further ohss symptoms? I was at risk and was put on cabergoline and cetrotide, as well as high salt diet, and told to call in if weight gain over 2lb/day, nausea/vomiting/diarrhea or difficulty breathing.
I'm not sure if the meds work once ohss starts, or just as prevention, but I thought it was worth it to ask
Very best wishes for k and for you!
Kate

Elena Ridley said...

Yikes!! So glad she is ok! Did they have her on doxycycline and/or dostinex? I was really worried too since I had 34 eggs, but was lucky to not end up getting it. She seems like she is such a strong and positive person, hope she feels better!

Caroline said...

So glad that she is ok!!!!! She sounds like such a beautiful and amazing woman!

Elisha Kearns said...

oh my goodness! Your friend K is amazing and so sweet. You are so blessed to have her in your life. When I did IVF I also got OHSS. It's not fun but as long as she sticks to the diet she will be feeling ten times better in just a matter of days. Sending you guys lots of prayers this morning. xo

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waiting and wishing said...

When I read 33 eggs I worried for her, knowing the possibility, but lots of women do make it through without incident. I'm sorry she didn't, but I'm so glad to hear she is feeling better! Wishing you all the best as you prepare for transfer!!!!

The Run Away Stork said...

Oh my gosh I can't imagine what you've been going through for the last few hours. I am so happy to hear that K is doing better! I would have had all of the same thoughts and feelings as you did but there is no way any of that was your fault! What a huge relief that she's feeling better. Now take her advice and get some rest and start focusing on your upcoming transfer! 23 fertilized eggs is SO amazing! I'm praying for all of them to keep growing and dividing. Keep us posted!

Aubrey said...

Oh my goodness, Jessah! How scary for K... for you... for everyone! I am so glad that she's doing OK and also that you have 23 embryos!! Amazing news!! XOXO

A Few Good Eggs said...

Jessah, I'm so sorry for K and glad that she is okay. I'm thrilled for you for the 23 fertilized eggs. What amazing news!

Katelyn @ Real Housewife of Greenville said...

Hey Jessah, I've just read back a few posts about your decision to seek out an egg donor and the beautiful gift K has given you! I'm so glad you've been blessed with a gracious friend who is willing to complete your family! I can't imagine how scary everything must have been, but I'm so glad K is home now and recovering. I'm looking forward to reading more from you and excited to finally see your dreams come true!

Katelyn

Erika said...

Oh my gosh-- SO scary!!! I hope she continues feeling better...bless her heart being so concerned for you!!! She seems like the kindest person ever!!

Just T said...

I was also concerned for K after seeing how many follicles she had. I am so happy to hear she is finally resting and hopefully she will recover quickly. I know how awful having OHSS can be.

YAY for you baby future! Only good things coming your direction.

Sarah said...

praying for both of you though out this entire process. hang tough! xxo

acoursetothefinishline said...

I know its difficult but try not to blame yourself for her OHSS - some people get that many eggs or a similar number and don't end up with OHSS.

YAY for 23 mature eggs!!! Grow eggs grow!!!

Court @ Sweet Home Alabamian said...

I am praying!!! You both are TOO sweet for words!

Lyndsey Davis said...

I'm so sorry about K. Glad she's ok. But soooo excited about so many embryos to choose from. Prayers coming your way!!!!!

Liz Snowflake said...

Yikes! SO scary! I'm sending you both all kinds of positive vibes and well wishes. I pray this is IT for you!

holly said...

SOrry to hear about K. She truly sounds like the best kind of person though!!

23 is awesome!! I hope they all progress the way they should!!

Aramis said...

I'm so sorry to hear about K. Don't beat yourself up over it, you weren't the one prescribing her stims. You trusted the doctors, just like she did. I hope she's on the mend and that your embryos are growing nicely.

Northern Star said...

I think my heart stopped a little when I read the title of this post. I'm really glad to hear that everything is ok on K's end ... and am ECSTATIC that 23 eggs fertilized! What a wonderful ending to a scary couple days.

Emily said...

I'm sure that was scary for everyone, but glad to hear K got the care she needed and has been so able to go with the flow. OHSS is part of the process for so many women, and sounds like she's handled it like a true champ. Awesome fert report. There will always be bumps in the road, but it really sounds like this has A LOT of potential to end really really well! YAYYYYY!!

Allison @ Texas Mrs. said...

So very thankful to have come across your blog. I will send a prayer up right now for a successful transfer and that the Lord will make you SUPER DUPER fertile. <3

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