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Monday, July 28, 2014

9 tips for surviving the 2 week wait


Whether you have tried to get pregnant without treatment or with drugs, IUI or IVF, the part of the cycle that involves waiting to hear the "news" may be is exhausting. Each day you may be monitoring your body for signs of early pregnancy or for signs that you feel may mean your period will soon begin. It is like being on a roller coaster of hope and fear.

Consider the following 9 survival tips:
  • Keep quiet. Limit the number of people you tell about your cycle and let them know how you will share the outcome of the cycle. Some couples tell their family and friends, "No news is bad news," to eliminate the need to call them with bad news. Unless, of course, you're a blogger. Too late. The whole world will be watching and waiting.
  • Treat yo-self. Spend time doing the things you enjoy the most: cooking a wonderful meal, watching your favorite movie, cuddling with your pet or reading a good book.
  • Exercise. Take daily walks. While walking, meditate or pray. But get your body moving. 
  • Talk it out. Set time aside to talk with your partner about your feelings. Or talk with a friend who has experienced infertility and understands how you might be feeling. 
  • Set expectations. Tell your partner what you will need if the news is not positive. Do you want to be distracted and go out to eat or to a movie, or do you want to be left alone? Do you want to talk about the next steps in treatment or options, or wait a few days? Give your partner specifics on this- he can't read your mind.
  • Protect yourself. For example, don't plan on going to a dinner party given by a pregnant friend the day you expect to get your pregnancy test results.
  • Breath. Take slow, deep breaths when you are feeling anxious. This basic technique can assist you physiologically, as well as being mentally calming.
  • Reframe your thoughts. This is very helpful when you are experiencing negative thoughts or if your thoughts are driving you crazy by alternating between thinking you are or aren't pregnant. For example, the thought "The test will be negative and I'll never be pregnant," may end up as "I am open to the possibility of being pregnant and I'm doing everything I can to make that happen."
  • Journal. If writing is your thing, write letters to your future child. Or write about how you feel and ask the universe for what you want. Sometimes just the act of writing eases anxiety. 
Some of these tips were inspired by a RESOLVE article but have been modified based on my own experience. 

How do you survive the two week wait?


27 comments:

jgberry said...

The dreaded 2ww. It never gets easier. I pray to analyze less, but it's so hard!!! Thinking and praying for you often!

Jennifer T said...

Oh I hope your 2ww is flying by for you. I hate the 2ww. It can be torture! Can't wait to hear some good news from you!!! Hope you are doing good and all is well!

waiting and wishing said...

That is great advice. Especially the part about really vocalizing your needs when the news comes in. For me, Our clinic runs betas 9dp5dt, so after a couple days of bedrest, it honestly went pretty quickly... At least that's how I remember it now 2.5 years later :) sending lots of positive vibes your way!

Megan Swanek said...

I love all of your tips - especially reframing thoughts, walking and journaling. I interviewed my Mom on what it was like to be a new Mom during my 2ww.

SmallTownFamily said...

By keeping busy. ;)

ADSchill said...

I found the "pamper yourself" idea to really help me. I made a ton of plans to keep me busy - like pedicures, girls' nights, going out to dinner and theater, and projects around the house.

In the down moments, I would listen to some meditation CDs and write.

Endo_Life said...

The two week wait is horrible as there are just so many of them! I took a week off work and just relaxed. The day I had to do my test was the day of my great nieces 1st birthday party. I was so lucky it was a positive result or I don't know how I would have gotten through it.

These tips are great and I hope you are getting through the wait with little/no stress xx

Anonymous said...

I prayed constantly & took it very easy. Having a plan 'b' in place helped too. It was hard not to google every 'pregnancy symptom' in the world... I will say I had ZERO symptoms. I was 100% sure I wasn't pregnant. So sure that I wouldn't take a hpt until day of beta b/c I wanted to remain pupo as long as possible. This was ivf #4 & next step was donor eggs. When i finally just ripped the hpt open & tested, I walked out of the room w/ one last prayer but not much hope. When I saw the smiley face, I stopped breathing for a second & started to shake- I couldn't believe it- so I used another test & again a happy face. I cannot put into words the kind of joy that overwhelmed me in that moment. I was so full of gratitude, relief & utter happiness that all I could do was cry. Then the news.. Triplets. Unreal. I would've felt the same joy w/ a donor egg. I have a very good feeling about your upcoming test... Keep the faith.

Just T said...

Jessah how long do you have until your beta?

Our Journey Through This Lovely Life said...

love this post! Such great advice!

The Run Away Stork said...

I've been thinking about you friend! I was so happy to hear from you and loved all of your advice on how to survive the 2ww. It's definitely the hardest part and I will remember this post in a couple weeks when I'm in the trenches. For me the only thing I'd add is when I feel like the fear is overwhelming me I try to give myself 5 min to feel it. I acknowledge the emotion and accept it and then do my best to move past it back to positive thoughts. Also eating healthy, drinking lots of water, and taking care of myself help me to know I'm doing everything in my control to support a healthy pregnancy. Best wishes friend. Praying so hard for you and your little one everyday. Sending you love, peace, and positive thoughts.

Anonymous said...

A lot of "Friends" and "the big bang theory" To make myself laugh. Great tips thanks ill be need it them in September again

Always Maylee said...

The 2 week wait is torture! I can't remember if I told you this already or not, but before I got pregnant, I went and got a massage and the woman told me to visualize my pregnancy and that your body will respond to your brain (supposedly). So during the 2 week wait, every day I stood in front of the mirror and visualized myself with a baby bump, haha. So silly, but hey, it can't hurt! :)

Good luck my friend!

xo, Yi-chia

Amie said...

I'm thinking you must be getting close to beta time, how exciting!! Thank you for this post, I have a few more days to go so this helps! Blogging is a huge help too :)

Emily said...

YES to the treat yo-self!!! Goes rather nicely with the "taking it easy" portion of having hubby's help us out more after a transfer too. ;)

Caroline said...

I love the journaling idea!!!!!

Mrs B. said...

I watched a lot of the Walking Dead! Haha

A Few Good Eggs said...

I'm hoping all of these things are working to make your TWW go quickly!

Elisha Kearns said...

such a great list girlie! I'm praying for you and believing that great things are coming your way! xo

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Whitney B. said...

I agree with all these and have something I'd like to add. Allow yourself to be HAPPY. Even after I passed the TWW, I spent the entire first trimester worried and anxious that I would have another miscarriage. Looking back, I wish I had celebrated more and just lived it up. Everything ended up working out and either way it is better to make the choice to be happy than fear what might lie ahead.

Lisa Mace said...

Great advice!

Ashley said...

Ugh- the 2ww is awful!!! One I would add is: Don't try to analyze every "symptom". Put your future in God's hands and try to enjoy life in the meantime.

Gypsy Mama said...

I tried commenting from my phone but I'm not sure if iy went through... just wanted to say that 2ww are the worst! good luck :)

"B" said...

Thinking of you. My clinic did betas at 10 days post 5 day transfer. They were the LONGEST days of my life (x8). Praying for you daily. My advice was to always stay busy. We always planned a trip somewhere new and different so there was lots of exploring and not alot of iddleness.

Morgan Rae said...

Really good advice. I just caught up on a small glimpse into your journey thus far. I am sending LOTS of positive thoughts and prayers your way.

Finley S said...

its the sort of thing that just makes me SIGH! it's such a torturous time that really you can't do anything about except wait for the time to pass! i like your reframe your thoughts comment though....need to work on that one! Thanks lovely lady - hope you are surviving with your own great advice :)

Anonymous said...

I just discovered your blog and appreciate you putting your story out there. I just went thru ivf round 2 and just had my transfer yesterday. Question for you, when you say walk, how much did you walk? I like to run and lift weights and am itching to do so. But I will be satisfied with an hour long walk everyday to get moving and be with my thoughts. What did you do? Thanks!

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