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Thursday, June 5, 2014

we have our egg donor!

the bubbles were a gift from Suzanne…thank you, friend.  
our egg donor story is not the norm.
it is out of the box. non-traditional.
and that's okay with us.

is it more than okay.
it's perfect. it's the way things are supposed to be.
we have found "the one" and it was a match made in heaven.
things like this don't happen unless they were orchestrated from above.

i believe our donor was intended for us. i feel in my gut that she will provide us with healthy eggs to grow our family and help us conceive the child we've been dreaming of and fighting for.

we didn't sit down in front our computer and select our donor from an anonymous profile like i thought we would. it didn't happen that way at all.
it happened another way.

our donor found us through this blog.
she read about the heartbreak we've endured on the road to parenthood.
then she read our post about choosing the clinic in san diego.

afterwards, she sent me a message that brought tears to my eyes and still does.
essentially, this is what she said:

i'm a two-time egg donor living in san diego.
you and your husband are the reason why i donate.
after reading about your journey and struggles,
i felt compelled to reach out and offer to gift you my eggs.

the gratitude that i felt and continue to feel for this enormous offer makes my heart swell.
our beautiful, kind-hearted donor k has offered to waive her fees and give us a gift. the gift of life. 
the gift i haven't been able to give to myself,
my husband or our families for almost 6 years.
a gift too generous for words.

this gift has inspired me to be a better person. to find a way to pay it forward. 
to change someone else's life as a result of my actions...
which is what she's done for us.

k has shown us the most amazing example human kindness, 
demonstrated a complete act of selflessness on behalf of a total stranger,
and eased some of the financial strain our family is under to find the money to pay for this cycle.

k could charge $10,000 for her eggs if she wanted to.
 donor compensation is for pain and suffering.
for the donor's time and troubles. 
and as many of us know, IVF is not easy.
the shots, testing, doctors appointments, egg retrieval.

but she doesn't want anything 
except to truly help us.
her own children have brought her so much joy 
and she wants us to be able experience that same fullfillment in our lives. 

she is the kind of person who believes in her core that 
if you have the power to make someone happy, 
you should do it.

this is k

thank you, k.
we are beyond blessed to have you as our donor. 


104 comments:

Jessica said...

I have tears in my eyes and goosebumps up and down my arms while reading this. What an amazing woman. What an AMAZING gift. She is beautiful. And your child will be beautiful. I am oh, so happy for you, Jessah. So, so, so happy. I can't wait to follow along as you begin this process. I know that your road to motherhood is getting shorter and shorter - it's going to happen for you, sweet friend! And very soon. And I just can't wait!

Nathalie Willmott said...

Wow! That's amazing! I am sooooo happy for you guys!

Joanna Clarke said...

This brought tears to my eyes and such happiness in my heart. An act of kindness to this degree is incredible. I am so happy that you and your husband get to move forward in your journey. So beautiful.

Jennifer said...

AMAZING! I'm so so SO SO happy for you. Praise God! Thank you K for being so incredibly generous and kind to this sweet couple. They will be incredible parents! :-)

Jennifer said...

AMAZING! I'm sooooo so SO SO happy for you and Aaron! YEAH! Thank you K for being such a generous and incredible person to give this beautiful couple this gift! WOW. Praise God - He truly has a plan. XOXO

Desirae said...

Congrats! So happy that you and your donor have found each other!! Xo

Charity said...

Oh praise God! We all appreciate you K! Thank you for helping to bless my friends. I am so excited for you Jessah! Your sweet baby is on the horizon!!

Hope said...

Crying, so happy for you friend! God bless K and what she is doing for you. Xoxo

infertilegirlinafertileworld said...

That is amazing, and fantastic! Congratulations!

Finley S said...

This is the most absolutely wonderful post. What an incredible journey for you both which has led to this moment - His plan and promise coming together for you both. Just absolutely wonderful Jessah! Thrilled for you both as you start this new exciting part xxx

babystepstobump said...

I'm in tears as I read this. Goes to show there is a God looking after us all. Your donor is truly a wonderful human being but so are you. I'll be praying it's all smooth sailing from now.

Maribel Galvan said...

K is so thoughtful and such a blessing to you all. Can't wait to hear the need of a bfp. Maybe a dumb question, but would you carry the baby or would K also be gestational carrier?

Infertile625 said...

Speechless. Jessah - this is life giving you what you deserve. You have been through so much heartache only to find more around each corner. You have handled each moment with grace and strength. You are going to be one amazing mommy. XOXO. You deserve this and K. There are no words or gifts or compensation great enough to repay that type of kindness inspiring. Congratulations!

Kristin J said...

That is so amazing and what gift!

Addy said...

Wow. What an amazing selfless gift. Continued thoughts and prayers that this will be IT!

Amanda said...

Oh geez, there goes my eye makeup, and it's 8:17 in the morning! Ugh, so many happy tears! What a BEAUTIFUL story and what an incredible gift! I'm so happy for you, Jessah!

K, if you're reading this, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have selflessly done what so many of us wish we could do for our friends... give them hope, give them a chance, give them a future. Thank you for this beautiful gift to Jessah and her husband!

~ Megz ~ said...

This just made my heart smile!! I have been praying someone would find you!! I had thought of offering, but my body and health is so messed up, you wouldnt want MY eggs, but if I could do it I would have!! I cant wait to follow you on this new part of your journey!!
http://ttcaftertr.blogspot.com/

Elena Ridley said...

What a beautiful and touching story!! So happy for you guys!! Such an amazing gift from someone who sounds like she is perfect and looks like she is perfect! Many congratulations to you guys!!! You WILL be amazing parents very soon!! Lots of love and hugs your way Jess! <3

Mrs. Lost said...

What an AMAZING gift.. This shows that there are still good people out there willing to do things because of what they are giving and not what they are getting. I will continue to pray through your journey. I have a good feeling that you baby will be in your arms within the year!

Kelly (leattc) said...

This makes my heart melt! I am so happy for you guys! What a kind and wonderful gift from K! It's nice to see there are still good people in the world!

Caroline said...

Love Love Love this! So excited for you - how sweet is she!!!

Stephanie said...

That is amazing!! Your story has obviously touched a lot of people and I'm so glad to hear about this match up. What a wonderful gift for a wonderful person. I hope and pray it works out for you!! :)

shay said...

that is flat out amazing, and brought tears to my eyes. I am SO happy for you, what an incredible gift!

Erika said...

Oh wow!!! This is SO awesome!!! What a humongous blessing!!!! So excited for yall!!! (enough exclamation points yet??!!!)

Suzanne said...

I simply love this story. It's such a true "meant to be" scenario and her kindness and compassion is truly what dreams are made of. I couldn't be happier that she found you. What a beauty…inside and out. So much love to you, my friend. xoxoxo

Unknown said...

What wonderful news! I'm so thrilled to hear this. K is a beautiful person, inside and out!

Just T said...

What a truly amazing and generous woman K is. There are no words for the joy I feel right now for you! I just know that you will become a mother, I really do.

Lanie said...

Yay!!! The missing piece to your puzzle is K! How great to have a person with such a big heart and great values be a part of your process! This is beyond exciting!

Amie said...

This is amazing Jessah!! I am so happy for you and this beautiful gift you have been given!!

Lilee said...

That's so exciting. What a kind a generous woman. And I can't think of a better couple than you guys to be blessed by her. Congratulations!

Ahsa B said...

Wow, I got the chills reading this. World is a better place because of people like K. Hats off to her. And who better to get this priceless gift than you. Good luck with your journey with K.

Krystal Sullivan said...

WOW. Just wow. She is an incredible person - and she is gorgeous! What a wonderful gift! Best wishes as you go on this journey together!

Nina S said...

What a wonderful gift! And she's so pretty too!

Laura Rahel said...

So she's wonderfully nice, generous AND gorgeous!? What wonderful qualities for your future bundle of joy! Singing so many praises and happy songs for your finding a donor!

Kristyn @ Carolina Fireflies said...

This brought tears to my eyes! What a gift to be able to give someone and what an amazing individual to choose to do so! I've been following your journey for a while now and I'm so very happy for you!

Megan Fredritz said...

What a beautiful person inside and out. I am so very very happy for you.

myhopejar said...

This is just so AMAZING!! I'm so happy for you! K is truly a gift from God. Sending you and K so many prayers. Hugs.

Gypsy Mama said...

Wow this is amaxing news!! Congratulations, what a blessing!

Court @ Sweet Home Alabamian said...

THANK GOD FOR K!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS GREAT, GREAT NEWS!!!!!! So happy for ya'll!!!!!!!!!

Jenn @ West Sac Honey said...

SOOOOO amazing! Power of above truly! Happy for you guys!

waiting and wishing said...

AMAZING! I'm so incredibly happy for you! What a special gift, and special story you'll someday be able to share with your baby. What a HUGE blessing!

Dream Chase said...

I am in tears... Tears of joy, of happiness, tears of finally!! K, you are an amazing woman!! I wish I could hug you for what you are doing. Jessah, I'm so excited for you!! I am so happy that this happened, so happy you've been given this gift. As much as people talk about the hurt and evil in this world, I'm consistently amazed in aww at all the kindness. Jessah you're going to be a mom!!!

JenS said...

This is truly amazing! I am way behind in blog reading but when I saw the title of this post I had to read it first. I am so happy for you. this is such fantastic news and such a beautiful gift. Wow. People really surprise me sometimes with their generosity.

Cristy said...

Wow, wow, wow!!!!

Holly Olsen said...

Wow! What a beautiful gift indeed! I'm so happy for you and your husband. Praying for you all and K and your future child.

Lisamarie said...

This is amazing! So happy for you, friend.

Brianna said...

Wow. Just wow.

Holly said...

Wow! She is a beautiful person inside and out. I'm amazed at the kindness of the human spirit that reaches out so compassionately. I am so happy for your family and so happy for her!! <3

futureMom said...

Wow! That is amazing! She looks a lot like you too. I'm really happy that you have found your donor and can move forwards. Did you meet her in person as well?

Anonymous said...

I love her so much! I want to adopt her into my family and call her my sister. I can't wait to hear more about this next leg of your journey.

Becky said...

Such an amaaaazing story! How awesome that she is willing to make such a sacrifice! And show cool that she found you! God works in such wonderful ways... :)

Ashley said...

Wow, that's amazing! And she's beautiful! So happy for you!

jAllen said...

What a beautiful story! I am so amazed at her genorisity and selfless spirit! She is so beautiful inside and out, and although I know this doesn't matter, I think she actually looks a little like you! She was meant to be your donor !

Sarah said...

This brought tears to my eyes- happy ones though :) I'm beyond thrilled for this new journey and just know that this will bring you your dream. Lots of love!!!! xoxoxo

alesha said...

So wonderful. I am so happy for you!

J and A said...

Oh my gosh. This has me in tears and so incredibly thrilled for you. Amazing. I am just in awe. I love this so much. You are so deserving and K is just incredible!!!

Jillian Collura said...

Wow that is such a beautiful thing! Thank you for sharing your amazing story! Infertility struggles are so sad and reading your blog helps me to keep on hoping.

Kristin said...

yay yay yay!! this is amazing!!

A Few Good Eggs said...

Jessah, oh my goodness. This is the most wonderful post and it brought tears to my eyes. What a lovely, kind, compassionate woman this K is to make your dreams come true. I love that she found you and was compelled to reach out and donate. We've considered donor eggs and I always say now that I wish I would have donated when I was in college (there were always ads in our school paper) when I probably still had my own eggs.

Seriously, what a gift. So very happy for you. And I have no doubt that you'll find an equally wonderful way to pay it forward.

Jennifer T said...

Oh! I love K! And I love the people in the world who are like this! I think K and my cousin must be related! ...my cousin says the same thing- how her kids bring so much joy and that everyone should have the opportunity for this...
It really does make you want to do something good for others too, doesn't it!

I am so so happy for you Jessah! This is the best news :) I can't even express how amazing this is!!! I LOVE this post!

Amber said...

Wow. Just...wow. That last line of believing if you have the power to make someone happy, you should do it. There has never been a truer statement, but not always something we do. What an unbelievable gift. The fact that she a total stranger is willing to do this without any compensation is beyond awesome. K, you are my new favorite person! I want to be more like you.

Amber said...

And Jessah, I am so incredibly happy for you!

Sunflower said...

This is awesome news, Jessah!! I am so happy for you!

Weylin said...

Oh Jessah. That is amazing. I am so happy and excited for you! This is going to work! And your baby will have some of your world's kindest DNA. That is an incredible gift. Xo, Weylin

Julia Spencer said...

What a beautiful woman, inside and out! Happy for you!

holly said...

This gave me goosebumps!!! I'm so happy for you!

NV said...

She is stunning inside and out, just like you Jessah!

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful woman, inside and out! What a lucky baby you'll have to have beauty in the nature and nurture aspects of life. Congrats! Much love!

Ashley @ Life on the Parsons Farm said...

What a blessing! I am so do happy for you! Praying for you all!!

AM said...

Congratulations! What an amazing gift and beautiful soul she is. Good luck.

Emily said...

I got your email message this morning and literally raced onto my computer to check your blog for an update. woo hoo! I am crying tears of joy for you. This is amazing. What a blessing to have someone so selflessly give, and for the absolute best reason in the world...not just trying to make $, but because she truly cares. Divine intervention YES my friend. SO SO VERY HAPPY FOR YOU!!!

K, if you're reading, you simply rock! :)

Katie @ Loverly She said...

Wow that’s amazing Jessah! So, so happy for you.

Joanna Clarke said...

What an immensely selfless gift. Her smile emits such warmth and love. It's amazing how things work out...just simply wonderful.

The Run Away Stork said...

Oh my gosh what an amazing post! I'm so filled with joy and hope for you guys! You are absolutely right God's hand has been in this in every way. So excited for you guys and will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as this stage of your journey begins.

Kacy said...

That is truly amazing. It restores my faith in humanity and God. I am so happy for you!

Ashley said...

Wow. I've been following your story for probably about a year now, and I am so happy that your dreams are finally becoming a reality! Your egg donor is an amazing woman, and your story is beautiful!

conceptionallychallenged said...

Oh wow, how wonderful! I'm so very happy for you, Jessah! This has to be one of the most amazing gifts one can make.

Deborah said...

Awesome

ADSchill said...

What a heartwarming story. It goes to slow that great things can come from blogging and from generous people. You both deserve this blessing. Hurray!

Haisla said...

That is such an amazing story. What a special, special person. Am so happy and thrilled for you and can't wait to follow the rest of your journey..

Stephanie F said...

I am SO happy for you all!! What a perfect outcome. Congratulations on finding the perfect donor (or on her finding you! :) )

waiting and wishing said...

I'm so incredibly excited for you! What an amazing gift and sweet story to someday share with your child. I'm anxious to hear all about this journey!

Lisa Mace said...

How amazing!! Love this! So excited for you all!

Aramis said...

Wow, that is so amazing! You are very lucky to have found someone like K (or rather, that she found you)! Good luck with the cycle!

Little Misadventures said...

Woooow, that is amazing! :) Y'all are so incredibly blessed!

Carissa said...

Congratulations! What a beautiful gift she is giving you!

Sabrina Marie said...

<3 I love this to my core!!

Sarah said...

seriously.
just how AMAZING is that!!!!!
she is truly beautiful. inside and out.
how great is God.
and your blog?!
i love this story. i know how hard the road is, and i can't imagine traveling it for as long as you have. the pain and the struggle is real. but this. what a great new road to be on! you are on your way to being a mama!!!!
ecstatic for you!

Mrs B. said...

Perfection what a beautiful story

Dreaming of Diapers said...

This is just beautiful. Made me smile. So happy for you Jessah..and bless you K....amazing selfless love...nothing better than that....xoxo

Monica said...

HOW AMAZING!!!! My heart skipped a beat when I read it was someone that found YOU! I'm so happy for you and your husband and I wish like anything there were more people like K out there. She has to be an amazing person <3.

Ashley said...

Amazing!! Congrats!!! Such a blessing!! Can't wait to see this story unfold a miracle!!

Logan said...

This is so incredible! What a beautiful, wonderful gift. I'm so glad you are at peace with the decision, and I cannot wait to watch your family grow. Praying for you always.

The Granberrys said...

Wow! This is amazing! I'm so excited for you all!

Laura @ Making Baby Provence said...

What an awesome and unexpected gift from a complete stranger! I think this is one of the most beautiful acts of kindness I have ever heard. My joy for you is overflowing.

Anna said...

Well, thanks. Now I'm crying.

That is beyond wonderful. I am so happy for you all! God bless K. I personally think it's better to know the donor, even just this little bit. So exciting!

Good Egg Hatched said...

I know exactly how you feel. A friend just offered to be our gestational carrier and it is the most indescribably generous gift. I have tears in my eyes for you. May this kindness lead you to long-awaited parenthood, and soon!

Janna Renee said...

I got chills! How selfless and amazing, and she couldn't have picked more deserving recipients!! Congrats!

K *egg donor said...

Thank you for all your sweet comments and well wishes. I still can't explain the stronger urge to reach out to Jessah but I'm so glad I did. I can't think of a more deserving person to become a mom. I can only continue to pray that everything keeps working out as it has since I contacted her. Jessah you're going to be a wonderful mother, I just know and can feel it <3

Aubrey said...

Jessah - OH MY GOODNESS! I am so incredibly happy for you. This is amazing. Just simply amazing. God is so good. My heart is SO FULL for you! XOXO

I can haz babyz? said...

Jessah,

I'm am so happy for you!! K is giving you the ultimate gift! She is so selfless and sounds like an amazing person. <3

--Mindy

Sarah said...

Omg!!! Amazing!! Sooooo happy for you all!!! Eeeek!!!! :)

Whitney B. said...

Somehow i MISSED the post in my feed!!!! AHHH!! I am so excited, K is absolutely gorgeous, inside and out! What an amazing woman to be so kind to y'all. Hooray for the power of blogging too!

SmallTownFamily said...

omgeee!!! I'm way behind...but so happy for you! Can't wait for more info! xo

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