Saturday, April 26, 2014

how to know more about infertility

Twenty five years ago, 
RESOLVE, the national infertility association, started a movement called National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW). The purpose: to break the silence of infertility. This year, NIAW is April 19th-26th.
Although it is the end of the week, I still want to contribute, share and be a part of this special time. Every year, I build this week up in my mind and feel a lot of pressure to write something profound. And every year, I am disappointed with myself.
You see, I'm not the best writer or storyteller. I'm not really "special" among infertiles. We all have different experiences but share many of the same feelings and face many of the same challenges. So when I read the blog posts of others, I get intimidated and think to myself "what could I possibly say that hasn't already been said by someone else…and said better".
I usually draw a blank. 
That being said, I decided to be a resource. The theme for this year's blogger challenge is 
"RESOLVE to Know More". 
It's in my nature to seek information. When faced with a deep, painful obstacle such as infertility, I tend to read as much as I can. Any resource that I can get my hands on, I soak it up. It helps to prepare me for the decisions ahead, learn tips how to cope with overwhelming emotions and to support others.
Over the past, almost six years now (wow, I can't believe its been that long), I've bought and read countless books, attended support groups, become an advocate for RESOLVE and read thousands of articles and blog posts.
I've learned a tremendous amount about fertility and infertility. Some things that I've read have been invaluable, while others, not so much. So for NIAW, I'd like to share some resources that I have read, enjoyed and think might be helpful for you to read as well.
If you're currently on the roller coaster ride of infertility, you know why it's important to be educated. If you are fortunate enough to be a fertile myrtle, you should become informed because infertility affects 1 in 8 couples (some studies are now saying 1 in 6). That means for every 8 people you know, 1 of them is struggling with one of the most difficult challenges of their lives....and they need your support and compassion. If you've not yet started trying to have children but want to be a mother some day, you should be aware of the things could affect your future fertility.
Here are some great resources that you might enjoy. 
Future Baby Mamas
The Infertility Cure

Fertile Myrtles  
 Infertility Etiquette
How to Help a Friend with Infertility
Breaking Your Pregnancy News to a Friend with Infertility 

Conquering Infertility
It Start with the Egg
Egg Donation

I plan to continue to build onto this list and put it in the sidebar of my blog. 
If you have any must-reads that should be considered for this list, please list them in the comments. I'd love to hear some things you've read to "know more" about the subjects of fertility, infertility and various different family building options.  
And lastly, here is my shameless plug. 
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Ashley @ Life on the Parsons Farm said...

Jessah! Thank you so much for sharing these resources. They are going to be so incredibly helpful for so many mamas and other ladies out there! Praying for you and thinking of you often with your journey! Much love!!

Jessica said...

You may not feel like you're the best writer out there, but this post was beautiful and very informative. I've already been clicking through to some of the resources you listed to check them out. Sometimes I don't know what words to say to sweet friends like you, who are trying so hard for a family, and are struggling with infertility. I don't understand why and it hurts my heart for you - and for all my sweet friends who are in similar shoes. Just know that I'm thinking about you!

Caroline said...

Love the infertility cure!! Thanks for bringing awareness!

Aubrey said...

Perfect post! XOXO

Lilee said...

Thanks for this list. As someone who is still relatively new to infertility, bloggers like you have been so valuable to me when you share your resources and knowledge. Thank you for being an advocate for so many of us.

Anonymous said...

Hey Jessah-

I started reading your blog during my first cycle of IVF, that ended in MC. I am almost to year 3 of my journey. You are an inspiration to myself and many others. I have everything crossed for you!

Here are some books I have found helpful:

Unsung Lullabies
IVF, a patients guide
The Couple's Guide to In Vitro Fertilization
IVF An Emotional Companion
Laughing is Conceivable

The Run Away Stork said...

What a great list of resources! Voting right now for the competition :)

Suzanne said...

Perfect post with so much great information and resources.

I love the picture of you and A. So beautiful you both are. xoxo

Logan said...

I think this is a perfect post for NIAW!!!

Jennifer T said...

I think you are such a great blogger and that nomination proves that! Hoping you win and thank you for sharing your resources. You are full of good info and knowledge.

Krystal Sullivan said...

Thank you for sharing this! I have listed books on my blog that have addressed infertility, and I plan on posting a second blog post soon that lists more books. Most of them are memoirs of women who have experienced years of infertility struggles. I hope that helps too!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this. I also recommend Is Your Body Baby Friendly by Alan Beer.

Janna Renee said...

I need to share this with a new girl I met. They are starting treatment, and I told her about your blog!

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