Monday, April 22, 2013

join the movement...

the stigma of infertility. 

a mark of disgrace. loss of respect. shame. painful feeling of distress. these emotions primarily stem from the lack of understanding, support and awareness of infertility in our society.

That means we can eradicate this stigma or at least start to reduce it. 

by starting a conversation. 
by finding our voice. 
by sharing our struggles. 
by reaching out to a friend. 

remember, 1 in 8 people suffer from infertility. that means, if you know 800 people, 100 of them have suffered or are suffering trying to build their family. that is a lot of people. but their pain can be minimized through compassion and understanding.

yesterday was the start of national infertility awareness week. the theme this year is 'join the movement...' i'd like to encourage you to join the movement by starting a conversation. 

break the silence of infertility. 
share your story. 
speak up. 
advocate for NIAW through social media
blog to spread awareness of infertility.

sharing something as personal and painful as infertility is not easy. there have been many times that i've questioned my sanity for putting so much about my struggle out there for the world to judge. 

it's very scary. but each time doubt creeps into my mind about whether it is the right thing to do, i read emails and comments like the ones below from my readers.

When I read your blog it's like you are speaking on my behalf.... Even after all this time, I feel devastated that my marriage to my all time sweetheart of 18years (married for 10 yrs) hasn't gone as planned. If life were perfect I would already have 2 kids by now but I guess, like you, God has something different for me or is saving the best for last! 
Denise, Republic of Malta 
I stumbled upon your blog, really by accident, today. I sat compelled for hours reading over every single entry. I myself have be dealing with infertility for about 4 years now. I don't know how, and I don't know why, but there were so many things in your blog that hit home with me and I just had to say thank you.  
Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone. For reminding me that there is always hope. For reminding me to be grateful for every single blessing I do already have. 
Chelsie, Pennsylvania 
I came across your blog today. I seriously just spent the last hour or so reading all your latest posts about your battle with fertility drugs and your recent decision to take a break from IVF.  
To be honest, I'm not quite sure the point of my email. I wanted to tell you that we, too, are struggling with infertility. However, unlike you, I haven't gathered the courage to talk about it on my blog yet. I'm not sure why. I think you are so brave and such an inspiration to be so open about it. And I feel your pain, sadness, and disappointment through this journey.  
So I just wanted to say, thanks, for your blog. Reading your posts today both broke my heart and gave me hope. I'm glad to have found someone who can understand what I've been feeling. Although I love my real-life friends, they just can't comprehend what this feels like.  
Anonymous blogger, Boston

these kind notes of gratitude from people around the world that i've never met...remind me that my words do make a difference. it is so important to discuss, write, speak, tweet, Facebook (whatever works for you)...about infertility. To lend support to others. To educate. To advocate for ourselves, for others walking in our shoes and for those who will walk this same difficult road someday. 
won't you join the movement?

if you haven't suffered from infertility, seek to understand. ask questions. don't make assumptions. learn more about may help someone you love. together...we can bring infertility out of the closet and reduce the stigma that's associated with it.
For more information on infertility, visit RESOLVE.


Impatiently Waiting said...

Great post! I love reading all of these posts for NIAW! And nothing is better than the comments we receive from complete strangers!

Aubrey said...

Your words absolutely do help!! Thank you for sharing your story, friend. xoxo

Ashley said...

Hi Jessah! Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your sweet comment! I'm looking forward to looking around your blog and getting to know you. If you ever have questions about adoption please feel free to contact me!

Sarah at Midwest Pillowtalk said...

THEEEE most beautiful post ive ever read.

Em said...

I'm so glad that these women reached out to you to tell you how valuable your blog is. Because it's true - Dreaming of Dimples is an amazing space where infertility is talked about in a really honest, but still positive way. Keep up the good work, Jessah. I'm so glad I follow you.

JoJo said...

Beautifully written.

Gypsy Mama said...

Thanks for sharing. I am going through a tough time right now and it makes it a little easier to feel all the support from other people like you who share their story. Lately I have been wondering if I should continue blogging, but this post has helped me decide that I should. You are such a sweet, strong person!

Amber said...

Jessah, you touch so many different people in all the different aspects of your life. You are an inspiration to others.

Whitney B. said...

You are awesome!

Laura said...

Lovely post! A cause very dear to my heart!! :)

Dream Chase said...

What an absolute perfect post! I've been sharing IF stuff on FB all week.

Anonymous said...

I happened to stumble across your blog thru another blog. I'm a young 20 something college student. I wish I could give you a great big hug, since I can't physically, I'll give you one via the blog. I can't imagine what you have gone thru, but your courage is so strong. I'm praying for you both!!


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