Monday, May 14, 2012

cup of tea

Yesterday was Mother's Day. Typically a tough day at our house. My husband feels the strain of living so far from his family. He doesn't say much but I know he misses his mother and grandmothers. When he calls his mom and hears about how his brother's family will celebrate with her, I know that he wishes that he could be there too.

I feel the emptiness of our home. Sometimes I wonder how my children would celebrate me. Would they fix me breakfast in bed? Or would they wake me with kisses and crawl into bed to let me hold them? I wonder if I'll ever have a child to wish me a "Happy Mother's Day". I'd be lying if I said those thoughts didn't cross to mind but I tried really hard to focus on what I have and not what I don't have.

What I have is an amazing grandmother and a wonderful mother. Every day with my grandmother is a blessing as she continues her battle with cancer. And my mother. My mother is an amazing woman. Like my husband, she doesn't always say it but she shows me all the time how much she loves me. She is a very selfless person who is willing to do anything to better the lives of her children. Her creativity never ceases to impress me. She is a crafter, cook, cake decorator, wine charm maker, seamstress and much more.

My mom and her husband have a gorgeous home and they love to host parties. Themed parties are their specialty. So for Mother's Day, my mom hosted a garden tea party for a few special ladies. It didn't seem right for her to do all of the work so I arrived early to help set up and prepare the food. I brought her a mocha from Starbucks and we spent some quality time together in the kitchen. When the guests arrived, the garden was transformed into a lovely tea party.

My mom with my cousin Zay (of course I saw what my mom would be like as a grandmother)
Thank you, mom...for all that you did to make yesterday special. And for all that you have done for me throughout my life and continue to do. I'm lucky to have you as my mother.

Hope everyone had a beautiful Mother's Day!


thecoffeehouse said...

holy smokes. i want to have a tea party there! :) so fun. glad you had some quality time with your mom ... there is nothing better.

Alicia said...

Wow, that party looks amazing! Happy morlther's day to you too.

Dandelion Breeze said...

What a beautiful day to share with your mum... hope your mother's day brings you peace next year xoxo

Heather said...

Wow! That is the most picturesque yard ever. That is such a sweet idea to have a Mother's Day tea party. I love it! I know what you mean about wondering about how your own children would celebrate you and seeing your mom as a grandma. :( I totally know.

myfertilityjourney said...

I love that Tea Party! Awesome! And absolutely love brussel sprouts btw! I'm glad you had a very nice Mother's Day. I am sure one day you will have a little one crawling in your bed wishing you a happy mother's day one day.

Lauren said...

I am so jealous of that pool!!

I completely remember how hard mother's day is when you're a mother without a child. (((hugs)))

Katie said...

that is beautiful!!! I didn't except mother's day to be hard for me, but it was - wishing so badly that I was a mom. I love that you said you try to focus on what you have and not on what you don't have. you are wise.

Lucy McCracken said...

wow what a beautiful tea display and what beautiful garden and scenery to have it at! It looks like your mom had a wonderful Mom's day! DOn't worry everything will happen to you in due time. i do know how you feel these holidays tend to do that. I was never able to have kids of my own, but I'm blessed to be a foster mom and a step mom. Beautiful blog and post. I'm your new follower from over at

bonbon said...

Oh my goodness that food looks absolutely amazing.

I appreciate your honesty about infertility and the difficulty of mtoher's day. It is something that as a culture I think we are very unaware of and insensitive to. Thanks for opening up about this and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

new follower :)

Jodie said...

jessica, you're a gifted writer. writing from your heart must be difficult. i like what you said about "focusing on what you have and not what you don't have." though i know it's easier said than done :) you're in my thoughts!

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